Psychotherapist and We vibe Spokeswoman Rachel Wright reveals that the key to great sex is simple human behavior – communication
Most of us are not taught how to communicate in general, let alone about a topic that many of us find difficult to discuss. I am speaking of SE X, of course.
Communication is about giving AND receiving information, and believe it or not, great sex comes from excellent communication. That means honest, tender, gentle and assertive communication.
It is up to all partners involved not to take things too personally – that is, if your partner sexually redirects you, it is not because you did something “wrong”, but because there is some kind of thing for their body and needs there how he enjoys it more.
Good sex is about being attentive, open-minded, and a team player
Always remember that sex is not about being “good”. Good sex is about being attentive, open-minded, and a team player, and good sex usually follows good communication.
Communication, in my opinion, is VITAL for great sex – that is, sex that is connected, caring, fun, safe, and attentive.
Without communication during sex, there is much more room for mistakes, hurt feelings, and triggers.
Communication during sex is essential for every person involved to feel seen, pleased, safe, and comfortable.
Here’s the deal, our bodies are constantly changing, our preferences are constantly changing, and what we like is constantly changing – sex is no exception.
Also, orgasms and pleasures happen in the brain. So when we are holding onto a thought or feeling, it can be difficult to be fully present and enjoy the moment.
How To Improve Communication With A Partner For Great Sex?
If sexual communication feels rocky, try talking about sex Outside of the bedroom.
Sometimes, having tough conversations in the bedroom can feel particularly vulnerable, which can ultimately make one or all of the partners uncomfortable.
Speaking in a neutral room outside of the bedroom becomes much more likely to make sure everyone is comfortable.
try talking about sex Outside of the bedroom
Also talk about things that YOU like because YOU are the only one who knows your body. Remind your partner that you enjoy being intimate with them and that in order to best understand each other’s bodies, you need to tell each other how best to enjoy your body.
Unfortunately, relationship communication isn’t taught in school (why not ?!) so you’ll have to look for resources. Take a communication course or attend workshops for additional guidance.
Dealing with clumsiness
It’s only embarrassing when we make it embarrassing. It can feel uncomfortable, but remember that being uncomfortable isn’t bad!
Most of us grew up with minimal sex education and have been told that talking about sex should be awkward – but it doesn’t have to be – just talk about it.
If afterwards you like to cuddle and talk because you feel cared about, ask about it. If there is something your partner is doing that bothers you, tell them.
If you have triggers in certain sexual acts, tell your partner that you want to avoid things (you don’t have to say why or what they are, but let them know).
Don’t be afraid to ask questions
Being curious about your sexual partner can be so sexy!
Also, be open to criticism, changes, and feedback. Openness to these conversations will always deepen intimacy and connection, and likely enhance your sexy bedroom experience.
Having someone and being someone who wants to understand their partner, body, and preferences is an excellent way to start those awkward conversations about sex AND make people feel so much more comfortable.
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